I was speaking with a friend of mine the other day. He is an executive in a large organisation, with a good job that he is extremely competent at and valued in. I mentioned that during a recent trip to the Sunshine Coast, QLD Australia, I nearly sent him a photo of a guy selling coffee out the back of his Kombi van @ Mooloolaba Beach. I shared this as I know deep down that this is his dream. To escape the world he currently works in, staring at a computer screen for hours on end.
The dream of going to work in shorts and serving coffee to people on holiday at the beach, perfection. I had resisted the urge to send him the photo but of course I told him the story, haha, I couldn't resist. He told me to stop talking, he just didn't want to hear that his dream was being lived by someone else.
He then said something interesting to me. He said 'why did you have tell me that? I was happy being miserable, now I'm miserable being miserable!'
I wonder how often we do that? We continue to avoid thinking about what we ultimately want in life so that we can tolerate our current situation. If we just don't talk about it, we can get through. But if we let ourselves even entertain the idea of living a different life we are confronted with the reality that we have chosen, and continue to choose each and everyday to live a life that we ultimately don't want to live.
What story about your desired life are you avoiding at the moment? What dream are you avoiding? Are you actually happy being miserable? Maybe becoming miserable about being miserable might actually encourage you to become courageous enough to change the story you are living.